< p >< / p >< p >Dream sex refers to men and women who have experienced physiologically and dream of having sex with the opposite sex after falling asleep at night. When it comes to women, if you have dreams, you don't have to be afraid. < / p >< p >(1) in terms of women themselves < / p >< p >Women do not have to worry about dream sex, do not think that it is 'ghost sex' and anxious, restless, and even irritable, nervous and frigid, and so on. As mentioned earlier, the lady who wrote to consult should face up to everything in the past and now, whether she has been sexually insulted in the past or seriously injured in sex, and should not cast a shadow that will never be dismissed and carry a burden. Let bygones be bygones and let bygones be bygones. Let bygones be bygones. The important thing is that now, we should not be appalled by the past, and do not let the shadows of the past hang over the real life forever. If you want to give up masturbation, you should also talk frankly with your husband about this question. < / p >< p >(2) as a husband < / p >< p >in sexual life, the husband should be patient and enthusiastic to treat his wife, avoid rudeness and rudeness; as a wife, he should be broad-minded and good at dealing with mental wounds correctly. Husband and wife should establish a close sexual relationship and discuss questions such as sexual apathy, sexual horror and related mental wounds. Or accept sexual mind doctors to consult counseling and treatment, do not blindly ask for medicine everywhere, spend a lot of money, but a drop in the bucket, a drop in the bucket. < / p >< p >almost all people have had sex-related dreams. Moreover, the more educated people are, the more often they have such dreams. Men around 20 years old, women in 40 years old, often have this kind of dream, but the content is different. Through a survey of 100 male college students and 100 female college students, it is found that girls often dream of kissing, hugging and sex, while boys dream of sex, so it is commonly known as 'women dream sex, men dream wet dreams'. Most men dream of strangers, while women dream of people they are familiar with. < / p >< p >the following is an analysis of several common dreams: < / p >< p >A deceptive dream < / p >< p >if the woman in your dream is not your wife or girlfriend, don't feel guilty about it. It reminds you to behave yourself in real life. < / p >< p >Dream of an unbeautiful woman < / p >< p >Young people often have this kind of dream is a way to discover a person's strengths, indicating that you like her because of her strengths rather than her beauty. < / p >< p >same-sex behavior in dreams < / p >< p >the object of sex in a dream is often a symbol of related emotions. For example, if you have a strained relationship with a woman recently, then the dream is actually a comfort to you. As a man, you certainly know more about the thoughts and feelings of people of the same sex. They are not as elusive as those of the opposite sex. < / p >< p >incest in dreams < / p >< p >having such a dream does not indicate depravity. Sometimes you have this dream when your relationship is strained or when you have difficulties with your girlfriend (boyfriend). The reason for choosing a member of the family is that she (he) will not be rejected, but will be comforted and caressed. Such dreams remind us to work harder to improve our relationship. < / p >< p >how does a man dream of having sex with his wife? < / p >< p >have sex with the opposite sex in your sleep. Also known as sexual dreams. An unconscious or subconscious sexual psychological activity. Most people's feelings in dream sex are mainly sexual pleasure, which may also be accompanied by anxiety, fear and other emotions. The more vivid the image in the dream is, the stronger the pornographic elements are, and the more violent and enjoyable the imagined sexual behavior is, the greater the sexual excitement and sexual pleasure caused by physical and psychological are, and the result is more wet dreams and broken dreams. Men often end with penile erection and ejaculation; women are accompanied by vaginal dampness and increased leucorrhea. < / p >< p >Dream sex is more common from puberty to premarriage, and it mostly occurs in people with sexual dysfunction, people who can't have normal sexual intercourse, and people whose husband and wife live apart. In fact, all married couples living together, dream intercourse this kind of non-willful sexual behavior is not easy to produce, because sexual desire behavior does not have to be suppressed into the subconscious state, can be vented through sexual intercourse. When there are sexual desires and impulses, but can only suppress it, it may be revealed in the subconscious, so sexual demands and impulses can appear in dreams and have dream sex. < / p >< p >most scholars believe that dream intercourse is a way of masturbation, a normal physiological and psychological phenomenon, a psychological defense mechanism for the body to adjust excessive sexual tension, and a self-protection mechanism. The initiation mechanism of dream intercourse is no different from sexual intercourse, except that the sexual object is false. It should be said that dream sex is not morbid, will not bring damage to the body, the occurrence of dream sex need not be nervous and anxious. < / p >< p >it should be pointed out that some jittery women may have repercussions in reality, regard dreams as reality, and firmly believe that they feel panic and pain after waking up, some lead to suicide, and some even name and accuse 'men in dreams'. This requires scientific and psychological explanation and guidance. < / p >< p >Dream intercourse is a psychological and physical expression. 'A Dream of Red Mansions' wrote for the fifth time that Jia Baoyu went to have a rest in Qin Keqing's room and dreamt that 'the police fairy betrothed his sister Keqing to him.' In a trance. It would be a shame to do the work of children. ' When I woke up, I found my thighs 'cold and sticky'. Qin Keqing is Jia Baoyu's cousin and daughter-in-law. According to the generation at that time, this kind of thing is impossible and unrealistic when sober, but what is done in the dream is not bound by ethics. < / p >< p >so, how to correctly deal with the occurrence of dream sex? First of all, it should be affirmed that for men and women who are in development or have matured, due to a series of changes in the endocrine system, maturity of sexual organs, Adam's apple in boys, low voice, spermatorrhea, girls' breast protuberance, menstruation, due to physical changes, affect psychological changes, it is not surprising to have dream intercourse at this time. Because whether men or women have dream sex at this time can make them sexual satisfaction, so as to reduce the psychological pressure of neutral consciousness in real life, so as long as the correct treatment does not hinder the normal life, work and study. Generally speaking, dream sex within 3 times a month is a normal phenomenon, but there is no need to panic. However, young people should not watch pornographic novels, pornographic TV shows and movies, and should not wear tights to sleep at night. They should empty their bladders before going to bed to avoid having too heavy and thick quilts, so as to reduce the occurrence of dream sex. < / p >< p >Women who have dream sex do not have to be afraid, do not think that it is 'ghost sex' and worried, restless, or even irritable, nervous and frigid, and so on. For example, the lady mentioned earlier should face up to everything in her past and present, whether she has been sexually abused or sexually harmed. She should not cast a shadow that will never be dispelled and carry a burden. To calmly deal with what happened in the past, let bygones be bygones forever. The important thing is that we should not be afraid of the past and do not let the shadow of the past cast a shadow over real life forever. If you want to give up masturbation, you should also talk about it honestly with your husband. In addition, in sexual life, husbands should be patient and enthusiastic with their wives, avoiding rudeness and barbarism; wives should be broad-minded and good at correct treatment when they encounter mental trauma. A close sexual relationship should be established between husband and wife to discuss sexual apathy, sexual fear and related psychological trauma. Or accept the guidance of a sexual psychiatrist for treatment. Don't go around blindly to ask for medicine, which costs a lot of money, but nothing can help. < / p >< p >recently we received a letter from a married woman who said, 'when I was young, I once felt vaguely in my dream that someone had touched her clitoris. It was a handsome man. When she woke up, he left.' Later, she tried to touch her clitoris, so she developed a bad habit of masturbation. although she had given up masturbation as an adult, she often dreamed of former men visiting and having dream sex in recent years. This year, she had dream sex once every few days. The next day she felt sore waist, weak legs and weak limbs. The sexual requirements of the husband are disgusted with menstrual disorders, general discomfort and all kinds of 'neurasthenia' symptoms. ' The lady asked, 'is this a relationship with a ghost dream?' What on earth is dream sex? '< / p >< p >Dream sex means that men and women who are physically mature dream of having sex with the opposite sex after falling asleep at night. < / p >< p >unmarried young people who are physically mature have a psychological curiosity about the opposite sex, for example, a man sees a very beautiful woman or a woman sees a handsome young man during the day. He (she) thinks that this is the Snow White (Prince Charming) he or she has dreamed of for many years, and how happy and happy it is to be able to share a bed with her (him) for a lifetime, so the cerebral cortex is highly excited. But it can only be imagined during the day, but it cannot be realized. If this excitement can not be calm all day long, then after falling asleep at night, because the cerebral cortex and spinal cord center are excited for a long time, you will dream of having sexual intercourse with the opposite sex. The opposite sex is him or her with a specific object. This kind of electrophysiological phenomenon of cerebral cortex is what people often say, 'think in the day and dream in the night.' < / p >< p >the love relationship between men and women has become clear and recognized by colleagues around them, but men and women are only lovers. Before formal marriage or cohabitation, they are inseparable during the day, eating, shopping, watching movies, traveling together, and even passionately kissing and hugging. There is a kind of sexual desire and action, which is a kind of physiological instinct and a natural expression of emotion to a certain extent. Although they will formally marry and become husband and wife soon, it is not possible for them to have sex at present. The activity of white nature is controlled by the cerebral cortex and can only be meditated, but when you fall asleep at night, the control of the brain weakens, so you often dream of having sex with a lover. According to the survey, many young men and women who are about to get married will have this dream sex phenomenon. < / p >< p >married men and women have a good relationship after marriage and have a harmonious sexual life, but with the passage of time, if women shift their main energy to raising children after giving birth, apart from work, housework is busy and they are no longer interested in sexual life. but the man has a strong sexual demand and the wife can not meet, or even refuse to have sex, the man has to endure, because the 'energy' surplus of the man will have dream sex at night and ejaculate. Another situation is that couples are temporarily separated for various reasons, such as going abroad or on business trips, for a long time, because of missing feelings, they will dream of warm hugs with their loved ones, intoxicating kisses, and dream sex when they are highly excited. < / p >< p >there are many reasons that cause a person to have a certain dream: personal physical and psychological status, health, social life background, pre-dream stimulation, personal desire and so on. Frequent sex-related dreams may have the following reasons: < / p >< p >first of all, in terms of physical function, traditional Chinese medicine believes that 'if you treat the Yin organ, the dream will be connected to the inside.' If the pubic apparatus is insufficient, then dream of releasing vital energy, and often dream of coitus between men and women. < / p >< p >secondly, often watching pornographic publications or pornographic videos can also strongly stimulate the cerebral cortex, and this exciting focus still plays a leading role at night, so it reappears in dreams. < / p >< p >Women who yearn for pregnancy may have dream sex, and monastery nuns may dream of having sex with 'demons' for a long time due to sexual depression. < / p >< p >moreover, sexual dreams have something to do with food and drugs. Such as dinner to eat more leeks, shrimp, carp and so on, or before going to bed to eat pilose antler, hippocampus and other aphrodisiac drugs, may have sex-related dreams. < / p >< p >spermatorrhea is also a kind of dream behavior. Most adult men have experienced ejaculation in their dreams. Generally speaking, when men are 15 or 16 years old, when they enter the period of sexual maturity, the penis can be erected and semen can be excreted, which usually occurs in the dream state. Jia Baoyu's first trial of Cloud and Rain in A Dream of Red Mansions describes the plot of Jia Baoyu's first spermatorrhea. < / p >< p >A few people fail to recall the dream scene after spermatorrhea, while most people may recall the dream scene after spermatorrhea. The content of dreams is always related to contact with the opposite sex, such as having sexual intercourse with the opposite sex, or touching the opposite sex's body, or appreciating the beauty of the opposite sex, or just talking to the opposite sex. When the dreamer is excited, ejaculation occurs, accompanied by sexual pleasure. Usually, the dreamer wakes up after ejaculation. Spermatorrhea can be said to be a kind of 'sexual intercourse in a dream'. < / p >< p >as the saying goes, 'essence overflows itself'. When sperm is filled, too much semen is stored in the body, and sexual excitement is enhanced. If there are other stimuli, such as dreaming of the opposite sex, bedding pressure, tight underwear and other mental and neurological effects, spermatorrhea may occur. < / p >< p >Ancient Chinese doctors believe that teenagers are vigorous and have no sex for a long time, and occasional spermatorrhea is not morbid. So general spermatorrhea does not affect health, nor is it a moral issue. < / p >< p >if spermatorrhea is frequent, once every two days, it is not normal. The prevention and treatment of frequent sexual dreams and spermatorrhea is < / p >< p >1. Pay attention to mental health, often maintain a relaxed, happy mood, eliminate distractions, abstinence, and cultivate their own cheerful, optimistic and strong character. < / p >< p >2. Don't eat too much at night, the bedding should not be too heavy, and the feet should not be too warm. < / p >< p >3. Take part in more sports and sports activities and normal social activities. < / p >< p >4. If excessive spermatorrhea affects mental health, you should go to the hospital for examination, and the use of drug treatment, acupuncture, massage and so on can have satisfactory results. < / p >